Break through your paranoia into the crowd
Do you often feel stubborn and can’t listen to other people’s advice, do you think that others always want to hurt you, harm your interests, and cause many unfavorable challenges for you, do you think that this world is dangerous and good?And lonely and sad. Well, you don’t think about it. If you really have these illusions, then it is likely that your personality has deviated.
Don’t think that I am alarmist. Come with me to see what the paranoid personality disorder is. You know where the problem is.
Paranoid personality is also called delusional personality.
Its behavioral characteristics are often expressed as: extreme allergies, guilty of fraud, insults and injuries; ideological behavior is stubborn and rigid, sensitive and suspicious, narrow-minded.
Love you, feel nervous about others’ achievements or honors, burn in a bonfire, not to seek quarrels, to say cool words behind the scenes, or to openly reject and blame others.
Self-righteous, pretentious, overestimated in their ability, accustomed to blaming others for failure and responsibility, often exaggerated in work and study; at the same time very inferior, always too much to ask others, but neverTrust others’ motives and wishes, and think that others are bad.
It is impossible to analyze the scales correctly and objectively. It is easy to proceed from personal feelings and subjective one-sidedness. If you establish a family, you often suspect that your spouse is infidelity.
People with this kind of personality can’t be at home with each other. They can’t get along with friends and colleagues, and others have to stay away from him.
First, the performance characteristics In order to facilitate the diagnosis, the “Chinese Mental Disease Classification Scheme and Diagnostic Criteria” describes the characteristics of paranoid personality as: 1. Extensive suspicion, often misunderstanding other people’s unintentional, non-malicious or even friendly behavior as hostility orDiscrimination, or lack of sufficient grounds, is suspected of being exploited or harmed, so it is excessively vigilant and defensive.
2, the surrounding objects are interpreted as “conspiracy” that does not conform to the actual situation, thus becoming a concept of overvaluation.
3, prone to morbid hazards.
4, over-confidence, if there is setback or failure, it is blamed on people, always think that they are correct.
5, so terrible to hate others, can not be tolerant of others’ mistakes.
6, from the actual arguments and hostility, stubbornly pursue the “rights” or interests of individuals not reasonable.
7, perspective or do not believe in objective evidence that does not correspond to the patient’s ideas.
It’s actually hard to change the patient’s mind with reason or fact.
The patient’s symptoms must be at least three of the above items in order to be diagnosed as a paranoid personality disorder.
People with paranoid personality rarely have self-knowledge, and they have a negative attitude toward their partial execution. Therefore, the number and proportion of people in the society are indeed unknown.
According to data from the Shanghai Youth Mental Health Survey conducted in 1988, the number of such personality disorders accounted for 5 of the total number of mental disorders.
8%, the actual situation may exceed this ratio.
In the investigation, it was also found that people with paranoid personality disorder were seen by men and mostly with biliary or extroverted personality.
Second, treatment methods for the treatment of paranoid personality disorder should be based on psychological treatment to overcome suspicious sensitivity, stubbornness, insecurity and self-centered personality defects.
There are mainly the following methods.
1, cognitive improvement method.
Because patients don’t trust others, they are sensitive and suspicious, they will not accept any good faith advice. Therefore, they must first establish a trust relationship with them, exchange emotions on the basis of mutual trust, and introduce them to the nature, characteristics and harmfulness of their own personality disorder.And corrective methods, so that they have a correct and objective understanding of themselves, and consciously intervene to produce a desire to change their personality defects.
This is a prerequisite for further psychotherapy.
2, dating training method.
Encourage them to take the initiative to make friends, learn to trust others in the dating, and eliminate the feeling of uneasiness.
The principles and essentials of dating training are: (1) Sincerely meet each other and be honest.
I must take a sincere and sincere attitude and actively make friends.
Believe that most people are friendly and better, trustworthy, and should not be biased and distrustful to friends, especially close friends.
It must be clear that the purpose of making friends is to overcome paranoid psychology, seek friendship and help, exchange thoughts and feelings, and eliminate psychological barriers.
(2) Try to give all kinds of help to close friends during the interaction.
This helps to change hearts, gain the trust of the other party and strengthen friendship.
Especially when others have difficulties, they should be more helpful, knowing the truth in adversity, in order to gain the trust of friends and enhance friendship.
(3) Pay attention to the “Psychological Coherence Principle” character of dating, the similarity and consistency of temper, help psychological compatibility, and make good friends.
In addition, gender, age, occupation, cultural accomplishment, economic level, social part and hobbies also have “psychological compatibility” problems.
But the most basic condition of psychological compatibility is the similarity and consistency of the evaluation of ideology and outlook on life, that is, “like-mindedness.”This is the psychological basis for developing cooperation and consolidating friendship.
People with a paranoid personality like to go to extremes, which is associated with irrational ideas in the mind.
Therefore, to change the partial execution, paranoid personality patients must first analyze their own irrational concepts.
Such as: 1 I can not tolerate the slightest infidelity of others.
There are no good people in the world, I only believe in myself.
2 For the attack on others, I must make a strong counterattack in advance, let him know that I am stronger than him.
4 I can’t show tenderness, which gives people a feeling of being not strong.
These concepts are now being modified to remove the extremely extreme components.
5 Good and bad people exist in the world, I should believe those good people.
6 Attack on others, immediate counterattack may not be the best policy, and I must first identify or really be attacked.
I dare not express true feelings, which is itself a manifestation of weakness.
It’s not that I don’t mean a one-of-a-kind king. Other people’s occasional infidelity should be forgiven.
As a result, when the situation relapses, the modified rationalization concept should be memorized once, so as to prevent its extreme behavior.
Sometimes I unknowingly show a biased behavior. Afterwards, I should re-analyze the thoughts at that time. I came out of the irrational concept at that time and then reconstructed it to prevent the next crime.
4, hostile corrective training method.
Patients with paranoid personality disorder are prone to hostility and distrust of others and the surrounding environment. The following training methods are used to help overcome hostile confrontation.
(1) Always remind yourself not to fall into the whirlpool of “hostile psychology”.
Self-reminders and warnings in advance, pay attention to correctiveness when dealing with people, which will obviously eliminate hostility and strong emotional reactions.
(2) It is necessary to understand that only by respecting others can the basic truth of respecting others be obtained.
Learn to say thank you to those who have helped you, instead of not screaming, but you can’t ignore it.
(3) Learn to smile at everyone you know.
You may not be used to it at the beginning, it is not natural, but you must do it, and try to do it well.
(4) Learn to be patient and patient in life.
Living in a complex world of big conflicts, conflicts and frictions are inevitable. At this time, we must be patient and restrained. We must not let the anger of the enemy stunned and anger.